Tuesday, November 22, 2011

In October, we had a sadik show

At Dietrich's school, it was time to celebrate "Generous Autumn" again.

Honestly, at this point, the sadik shows are starting to blend together a bit. Dietrich didn't have a specific speaking part, but I did notice that he's singing more and more confidently. (Warning: The video below might make you sick to your stomach. It also shows that my little angel has his not-quite-angelic moments. Just keeping it real. Plus I'm too lazy to edit it.)

Bird song from josie oldenburg on Vimeo.



I think Dietrich's willingness to actually have his picture taken also reflects his growing comfort at sadik. Here he is with his teacher. And he's practically smiling!



I do love how much Ukrainians appreciate the earth and its bounty, and this show certainly reflected that appreciation -- especially when the little girls did the Dance of the Wheat.

Dance of the Wheat from josie oldenburg on Vimeo.



The costumes were charming as always ...


Two little mice


A frog


Autumn Herself

.. but, I have to say, no one topped the cucumber kid from last year's "Generous Autumn" show.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

In October, my boys grew closer as brothers

My brother and I are three years and 10 months apart, and I don't recall ever playing with him when I was a big 5-year-old. Lev and Dietrich are three years and eight months apart, so I didn't really expect them to do stuff together. But look! They do!




Actually, they seem drawn to each other, and they scarcely spend any time apart -- unless Dietrich has grand architectural plans with the blocks, in which case, Lev the Destroyer does have to be locked out of the room.

They sit opposite each other at the kitchen table and play mimicry games. They wrestle. They have Quiet Play Time together in their room, and when Lev starts fussing, Dietrich says, "Don't worry Lev, I'll make you happy again." And then he breaks into a highly energetic game of peek-a-boo -- and he actually does make Lev happy again.

Watching their relationship develop has been one of the biggest surprises -- and biggest joys -- of motherhood.

Friday, November 18, 2011

In October, we felt fall on our faces

Remember when we got back from Sumy, and I vowed to help my boys behave better inside by giving them plenty of time outside? Even when it's cold? Well, fall arrived, and we kept up our daily pre-dinner strolls. So pretty! So sanity-saving!





I'm still dedicated to keeping this up once the snow starts falling. Actually, in some ways I'm looking forward to the snow, since it will be easier to spot, and thereby avoid, dog poop. Now that the sky grows dark by 4:30, we've accidentally brought home the neighborhood dogs' offerings on our shoes twice.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

In October, we discovered a ropes course

Sometimes having a little brother around can cramp a 5-year-old's style. So, once a month(ish), one of us takes Dietrich out on a special date. To kick this tradition off, I took him to the restaurant that Eric and I usually go to when we have a special grown-up date.



With me, he got to eat a lot of ice cream with hot chocolate on the side.



But Eric totally topped that sweet experience by taking him to a ropes course. Read all about it here.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

In October, we flooded our neighbors

Here's the whole story:

I took the kids out for a walk for about an hour. As we approached our apartment, the teen-age girl who lives downstairs ran up to me, saying something that I did not understand. When I told her I didn't understand, she said (in Russian), "Water is dripping!"

Water is dripping? This cannot be good.

The kids and I started to rush home, when my new friend Marina walked up. "I was going to call you, but instead I just decided to come find you," she said. I consider her appearance a miracle. She had never just decided to come find me without calling before, and hasn't since. But God knew I needed her at that moment.

"Oh, Marina," I said. "Water is dripping!"

"Water is dripping! Want me to come with you?"

"Yes!"

So, home we all went.

Within minutes after I opened our front door, two very large men rushed in and started playing with our radiator. I didn't see much water -- just some drops on the floor and the kitchen table, which is a good eight feet away from the radiator.

Turns out, that's because all the water sank down to our neighbors' kitchen. The kitchen they had just finished remodeling. When their ceiling started dripping, the neighbors called the zhek (kind of like the building managers, but more governmental), and the zhek turned off the water, but they were eager to turn it back on, and they needed to fix our radiator first.

They kept asking me questions, like, "When did you install this radiator?" (We didn't, the landlord did more than four years ago.) I suspected they didn't believe me when they referred to one part of the mechanism as "American."

They left saying vague, unsettling things like, "We tried to fix it." In retrospect, I think that's because they're afraid they will have to pay for the damage -- kind of like how you're never supposed to admit fault after an auto accident.

As all this was going on at our apartment, Eric was at work. The lady who answers the phones walked up to him and said, "Do you know anyone who lives at 44 Trostyanetskaya (not our address -- but close), on the fourth floor (not our floor -- but close), with two boys named Dietrich and Lev (yep, we know those boys)?"

Turns out, as her daughter was searching for me, our neighbor had somehow figured out where Eric works, learned our children's names, found the phone number and was calling him.

Soon after the zhek men left, Eric showed up. He stopped by the neighbors' to check out the damage, but there wasn't much he could do, so he went back to the seminary to pick up the guest we were expecting for dinner that night. Because, of course, if you're going to have a crisis in your kitchen, you're also going to be expecting a guest! (Thankfully, this was a former-missionary guest who had flooded his neighbors, too. Actually, I've found most people here have a flood story. Except Marina, so I joke that I'm more Ukrainian than she is now.)

Marina offered to leave, but I asked her to please stay until Eric came back. Sure enough, a few minutes later, our neighbor came in to look at the radiator himself. He understandably did not trust that the zhek had properly fixed it, so he wanted us to call the zhek and ask them to have someone on hand when they turned the water back on, in case the problem reoccurred. Marina made that phone call for me, and they assured her that there wouldn't be a further problem.

"But you might not want to leave the house tonight," she said.

So, what happened? We don't fully know, but every year, a few days before the government turns on the heat, it runs water through the radiators. The water rushes in pretty powerfully -- you can hear it filling up the pipes. Evidently, this year, the force was just enough to loosen a bolt that hadn't been properly secured when the radiator was installed years ago.

Later that night, we got another visit from the guy on the first floor who knows everything. I don't know how else to describe him. He knows everyone, he's lived in the building forever, he's the go-to guy for problems, he knows how to fix things or who to call when there are problems -- but, as I understand, this isn't an official role. He's just kind of been appointed by the community that calls Entrance 1 home.

He checked out our damage, our downstairs neighbors' damage, and even the apartment below them (thankfully, the water didn't make it that far). And he told us all to wait and see how it dries.

Well, this is how ours dried.



Every section of our kitchen floor between the table and the radiator eventually formed a little hill like this. To make it safe to walk, we've had to pop out slats, then tape over the holes. We had practice with this over the summer, when the high humidity caused two of the six sections to warp. Those two sections even re-warped, so they now are missing two slats each. At this point, we are floor-taping specialists.



In February, we plan to be at a conference for about a week, during which time, we will be getting a new kitchen floor. And, at some point, our poor neighbors will be getting a new ceiling.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Also, we went to Sumy

Our organization also has an office in Canada, and the personnel director in that office wanted to increase his understand of the cross-cultural workers with whom he works by spending some time in a cross-cultural setting. So, he and his wife are in Ukraine for six weeks.

I thought I'd help give them the full experience by taking them on a six-hour train ride with my two very, very active boys, for whom train rides are ordinary and boooor-ring.

So, off to Sumy we went, to visit the SEND team there and to meet this little darlin':



As it turned out, the boys behaved beautifully on the train! If only we could always travel with four extra grown-up hands.

On the train, there and back, we let Dietrich watch "Ice Age 2," which we'd borrowed. I, naively, assumed that it was rated "G" -- until a week later, when I sat down to watch it with Dietrich and noticed a surprising number of "colorful" puns.

For most kids, this probably wouldn't be a problem, but Dietrich watches movies with intent to memorize and repeat.

So, we gave it back. And it seems that Dietrich only picked up one unnecessary-at-this-age word: "Pervert." Except that he pronounces it "Herbert." Which leads us to make not-quite-accurate statements, such as: "It's not very nice to call a person 'Herbert.'" Naturally, this will be extra confusing if we ever MEET a Herbert.

Sumy was delightful, much like our last visit, except shorter and colder. Despite the chill, the boys wanted to be outside from the moment they finished breakfast until we finally dubbed the day done.


Lots of sand fun ...


... lots of games of chase.


Exploring this woodpile was the highlight of the weekend for Dietrich.


Of course, D climbed trees.


Melissa and Dietrich get on quite well. So fun to have an ever-present friend.


Anja grew a monster cabbage.


Fall's come to Sumy ...


... but some of the flowers are hanging in there ...


... and they made me smile.


Look how happy Lev is to be outside!

Maybe it's the afterglow of a minibreak speaking, but I feel like my boys are better behaved when they spend a lot of time outdoors. So, I vowed to more-consistently get us outside in the afternoons, even in Kyiv. Even when it's cold. Even when it snows. So far, so good (though it hasn't snowed yet).

Monday, October 03, 2011

Catching up

Since my last post:

1) Dietrich went back to preschool/kindergarten. Since he's one of the youngest in his class and misses the start date for school next year, he'll have a normal preschool year this year, and next year will be his school-preparation year. We think. There are many questions to be answered in the coming months.


Alas, the camera was out of batteries when we dropped him off at school carrying flowers for his teachers. This is upon pickup.

2) I got mastitis. Twice! It was awful, but it could have been more awful. Thankfully, an American lactation consultant whom I know and admire currently lives in Kyiv, and with her help, I feel like I got the best of both worlds (Slavic and American) in how we approached healing the source of Lev's sustenance.

3) I turned 35, and felt extra celebrated and loved, especially when Eric arranged babysitters and took me out to our favorite restaurant for late lunch.

Pretty flowers for little ol' me.

4) Eric had his first Area Council meeting as area director. It started at 2 p.m. and lasted until 1 a.m., with only a one-hour break for dinner. Oh my.

5) The coffee shop in the new grocery store in our region named a drink after me. It's a mint mocha -- not a common flavor combination in Ukraine. Evidently, people are trying it because, weeks later, it's still on the specialty drink chalkboard (and they've corrected the spelling).

Yes, I was embarrassed to take this photo.

6) Dietrich turned 5!


That, my friends, is a chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream cake with a cookie dough crust. You know how there's never enough cookie dough in store-bought ice cream? One way to solve this problem is to move to a country that doesn't have cookie dough ice cream. When you make it yourself, you control the proportions!


For Dietrich's birthday, my mom sent books to read to him over Skype (she has a copy, he has a copy), so his birthday ended with Baba storytime.

7) We all got a killer cold that lasted two weeks for each of us, except for Dietrich. Though he got over it more quickly, his sneezing and fever struck on the very Saturday that we'd planned to have his fifth birthday party. He must have felt pretty bad, poor thing, but he handled the cancellation of said party like a champ. And, amazingly, everyone was able to gather a week and a day later for the rescheduled party.

And now for many, many photos from the party.


First we gathered at our apartment for pizza. Eleven adults, nine kids, one crowded living room! Also, I need more forks.


Then we set off on a stroll to an undisclosed location.


We stopped to climb trees along the way.


Our destination!


The kids bounced until they were red in the face.


Even Lev got in on the action.


On the walk home, the kids hunted for treasure, hidden in yellow boxes all along the path.


The "treasures" were some of Dietrich's favorite things. This box, for instance, was full of cereal.


See that biker? He almost stole our box! (It was hidden in the phone booth.)


Not sure what Mr. Biker Man would have done with all these dinosaurs.


My favorite of the hiding spots.


Then back to our house for cake. Ten points to the non-Russian-speaker who spots the typo in the candles.


Dietrich didn't like the cake. But his brother did.


And so did his new stegosaurus. (Dietrich took this photo.)


Then we opened presents ...




... and got busy playing with them.


This was our major decoration for the party: 122 photos of Dietrich from the past year. Photos of him in trees. Photos of him with friends. Photos of him with his baby brother. Photos of him with his toddling brother. Photos of him at Disneyland. Photos of him at sadik. Photos of him in the snow. Photos of him at the beach. Photos of him with his grandparents, his aunt, his uncle, his Baby Betty. I love it too much. I can't take it down.

Ever since the party, I've been basking in the glow of thankfulness. I know, I know it's just a kid's birthday party. But there was no guarantee when we decided to raise Dietrich here that he would have playmates. In fact, I remember in our early years deciding that close relationships were something I'd probably have to give up during our time in Ukraine. But look! God has, in His goodness, seen fit to put these dear people -- and their wonderful kids -- in our lives.

Thursday, September 08, 2011

Lots and lots of days in Kyiv

Evidently, Seven Days in Kyiv is on a break while its author struggles to keep her head above water. Lots of stuff going on around here. Good stuff! Back-to-school duties to complete, a big 5-year-old's birthday party to plan, new friends to connect with.

Rest assured, much vegetable shopping-and-chopping also has been taking place. In lieu of a real post, here are some of the things we've spotted on our many, many walks to the market.


Elderly men often gather in this cozily cobbled-together spot, right outside Dietrich's preschool, for a game of cards.


Anyone in the market for a wedding dress?


When flowers and trees join forces, nothing can stop them!


Six years ago, when construction started on this building, Eric and I used to joke that it could be our future home. Construction has stalled to the point that I doubt it ever will be anyone's home.


Ukrainians don't care for tossing out bread, so we see lucky birds pecking away at a stale hunk every day.


Pretty flowers in clever containers.


See the balcony with all the pots hanging off of it? Those are tomato and pepper plants. I do declare that this apartment owner deserves the award for best use of a balcony.